Celibacy abstinence dating
See my previous comment for a full explanation and also the last paragraph of the post. I sat my toy out where I could see it everyday and wrote reasons why I shouldnt do it and the benefits to my relationship with God and the consequences in regards to my relationship with God right above it. I wanted to use it for the purpose it was made for it is a massager as well.I used it for that purpose but eventually used it for sexual pleasure. So I have been searching online trying to find reasons concrete reasons behind my bad feeling.My point in all of this is that if you withdraw, you will most likely get him to put in more effort, but that will only take you so far.Ultimately, if you want a relationship to be as you want it to be, you need to be true to what you really want.
sex toys are more a form of masturbation, than sex in my book.You may not understand this [but] I did it, then I felt guilty, then I became celibate until I got married. Its the same guilt I felt the first time I had sex and every time after. I knew sex outside of marriage was not Gods plan for my life as a Christian woman. With Gods help, I stopped because obedience to God became more important to me than pleasing my flesh.